Why bad things happen · First Addendum

Core Desire vs Surface Preferences 0:00

And that's the thing is that that also that like there you see with the husband, his real רצון is, he doesn't really care if it's this or that, he just wants that he should be happy, him and his wife should be happy.

He didn't realize. He thought, what? He thought that would make her happy, but if she says, "I'd rather have it a different way," then he'll make it a different way. Still, it's he didn't change his רצון, the עצם stay the same, but he measures it out differently.

So, that's the same thing with us. When we דאוון, or like we think of בטחון, or all these different things, whenever we ask God to change, God can make, you know, the way the world is different and still accomplish the same goal. He can just measure it out differently. To him, it's the same, doesn't matter,

cuz we asked him for this. That's what it says. We say in דאוונען on שבת, you know, that השם made the world according to his רצון and the רצון of the צדיקים and the רצון of all the Jews.

It was your fault. You you planned it out with him, and then, yeah, and you picked what part you're going to be have in the world, you know, your life and everything and your goal and your challenges, and then you come down here and then you start complaining, and he goes, "What do you mean? I thought that's what you said. That's what you wanted," you know.

Yeah, you wanted to have the challenges. That's the main thing you wanted. You know, you can't complain now. Yeah. And that's what, by the way, in order that that's the thing, though, in order to change it, you have to reveal all the way back to the עצם in yourself and in God. You have to like, you know, if you're as long as you're dealing with within like lower levels, so you're you can whine, but even within yourself doesn't mean that you really want it to be different.

Self‑Reflection Before Requesting Divine Change 1:32

You know, you you you have to like be aware of what's really going on to really be able to know if you want it different, and then you can ask, and then God will change it for you.

Right, the אלטער רבי wouldn't change anything, yeah, cuz he wanted this way.

Right, cuz he's a יחידה soul. And that's what he says in תניא. He says really you shouldn't like, you know, when when a person gets יסורים, right, he says that that you shouldn't you shouldn't even get a מליץ יושר or anything, you should just accept it happily knowing that that's the best thing. Right?

It's what we just said in תניא recently. Oh, there's

The Paradox of Desire and Acceptance 2:38

a שיחה about it. Why do we דאוון if once סתם something happens we're supposed to be happy about it and not complain, so then why before it happens do we דאוון that it should be a certain way?

So, it's a סתירה. And the answer the רבי gives is that it's it is a סתירה. It's a paradox, but Jews can be paradoxical, that on the one hand we can say we want it דוקא a certain way and not the other way, but then if it happens a certain way we can just like it that way. You know, cuz really we don't care which way it is.

We can both care infinitely and infinitely not care at the same time.