Part 6 · Chapter 10

Kindness Must Encompass Every Detail 0:02

So, on the one hand, we see that the kindness includes everything, and it must include every little detail, not just that it does, but it must have every detail, or else it's not kindness. And yet, the details aren't ממש there. It's not like that there's a desire for a coat, and a desire for shoes there. It's just kindness.

ואנו רואים, and we see, שיש בחפץ חסד זה שכל וחכמה ומדות ומחשבה דבור ומעשה. We see that when this desire for kindness is revealed, when he actually wants to help do something nice, that there's an intellect, and there's a wisdom, and there is emotions, and there's thought, speech, and action. It's a whole process that goes on.

Yeah, because he has to figure out, he has to evaluate the situation and figure out what will be kind in the situation. You have to You have to have a a head. You have to have a little bit of a ביסל שכל, you know? To be a nice person, sometimes you can mean well, but if you really want to be kind, if you if you have a strong desire to really be a kind person, you're going to also have to develop a certain be a certain amount of a smart person, because otherwise, you can sometimes do You'll try to help, and you'll you can do more harm sometimes than help.

So, if you really have the Part of the desire of kindness is that you're going to want to be smart about being kind. Also, there's a certain way of understanding things that is a kind way of understanding things. In other words, that you look for the for the good, and you look for ways to find merit and to find, you know, help for a person, as opposed to somebody that's being mean is looking for fault and looking for reasons to hurt and punish, and So, there's a certain way of of of a certain, like, perspective and a certain worldview which is like a kind שכל.

A Kind Perspective Shapes Our Understanding 1:30

It's a kind way of understanding things. And then there's a a wisdom, which means like a certain creativity that you have to come up with, be able to come up with creative solutions of how to solve people's problems, how to help them.

So, you need a חכמה, you need creativity. And then there's emotions. There's a whole thing of, you know, you have to feel for the person, be motivated, and you have to included in that is a fear and a hate for, and even, for things that are going to oppose the kindness. So, you have, you know, you have to be if you want to help somebody, and you're you're going to, let's say, help poor people and that that makes you have that are like starving, that makes you have a hate for hunger and a hate for things that are going to cause it.

You know what I mean? And a fear for them that you that you're you're passionate about it, both a positive way and also in a negative way, and you're going to overcome any obstacles, which is נצח, and you're going to, like, glorify kindness and how good it is, which is like תפארת, showing off how great of an act it is, and people that do it, you're going to make, you know, laud them and give them prizes and give them honor, so that people want to do it.

Glorifying Kindness: Victory and Splendor 3:06

There's a whole thing of how a kind person feels towards things, the way that they relate to everything in the world. That's the idea of the emotions.

And the is the way you relate to things, and depending on what your priorities are and what your goals are, that's going to determine how you're going to relate to everything in the world, the way your emotions are going to be.

So, there's a certain way that you're going to have emotions if you're for kindness. And then, of course, you have to have thought, speech, and action. You have to think about what you're going to do, and you have to tell, you know, talk to people or talk to the poor person and tell him, "Please come in." Ask him what size he is if you're going to give him a coat.

And all, then the main thing is the מעשה, you have to actually do it. You have to actually give him the stuff, give him a coat. אם כן, if so, that when it's revealed, the desire for kindness is revealed, it comes out in all of these different things,

Desire for Kindness Manifests in All Aspects 4:17

ועד במקור חפץ חסד זה בהעלמו כשהיה כולו בעצמיות החפץ חסד ההיולי גם כן נחלק שכל מדות ומחשבה דבור ומעשה שבו. If so, so we must say that included in the identity of kindness, his essential kindness, is already, if you know what it means to be kind, you already know how to think kind, how to feel kind, how to think kind, how to speak kind, how to do kind, you know how to do everything.

And this thing that he's a nice person automatically is going to he knows how how to have the שכל and how to have the מדות, intellect and emotions, it's all included there.

But nevertheless, אבל בבחינת עצמיות הכח דחסד ההיולי, כמו שהוא קודם שבא עדיין בדבר פרטי,

nevertheless, the way that these things are in the self of the essential kindness, in other words what the essential kindness is, before it comes to a particular thing, before it became a desire to give a coat, just the thing that you're one kindness, that you're a kind person, so at that point, at that stage, הגם שבוודאי גם שם יש התחלקות שכל ומדות וכולי, even though even at that stage we must say, like we just finished saying, that it includes intellect and emotions, in other words if you if you are a nice person, then you must also have an intellect of kindness and emotions of kindness, you can't just want to be, have like a desire to be kind without these other things, that that goes together with being kind, is the whole, you know, it has to come into everything, if a kind person the kindness has to affect everything, or else it's not a real kindness.

It has to come into the way he understands things, and the way he feels towards things, and the way he thinks and speaks and acts.

Charity with a Sour Face Isn’t True Kindness 6:25

If a person is going to give, and this is a a thing in הלכה that if a person gives a lot of צדקה, he gives a lot of money, a lot of charity, but he does it with a sour face and he's, you know, and he he like reluctantly and makes the person feel that's getting it feel like dirt, it's it's not as great of a thing, it's much worse than giving a little bit with a with kind words and reassuring the person and making them feel good, because, you know, one of the main things of kindness is not just the act of giving money, you know, making a donation, one of the main things of kindness is a whole attitude that you care about the person, and you don't really feel like you're superior to them, that you're doing them a favor, on the contrary, you really feel that they're doing you a favor, that's why it's called in Hebrew צדקה, which means righteousness, that you're really just doing what's right, that you feel that nobody deserves to go hungry, and the fact that you have enough food for two people means that really,

because of the way the economy worked out, whatever, you ended up having this guy's share too, and it's only right that you should give him some food, you know, and and and especially from the תורה's point of view that the whole reason that God made it that some people are rich and some people are poor is so you could do the מצוה of giving צדקה, so really you owe him double, because you're only able to do the מצוה because of him, and he has to suffer so you could do a מצוה, so you really owe him big time.

Torah’s Reason for Wealth: Enable Charity 7:44

And you know that, you know, there's the wheel of fortune turns and you could be in his shoes and that, you know, it's not like there's no reason why you should feel superior. So that's the whole, that's a whole, it's whole attitude to really be kind, and you can't just act like it, or or even try to talk in a kind way, if you don't really sincerely feel that way, which is only going to come from understanding having that type of, these like these type of things that I I was just saying of looking at your relationship to the person and to your money, and whatever, and to your your success in this way, if that's not really your worldview, then the kindness isn't going to come out right.

You're not going to really feel like helping the person, you're going to feel like it's a bother, and you're going to feel, you know, you're not going to like the fact that you have to give away your money and stuff, you know, it can come out in all types of bad ways which sometimes will lead to not kindness.

So we must say that in the thing of being kind, it already includes all of those details, because if it doesn't come out in all of those details, it's not really kindness. מכל מקום, nevertheless, כולם מתאחדים בתכלית, there,

All Details of Kindness Are Unified 9:14

all these details, even though we must say that they're there, they're totally unified and they're included in other words if you by the fact that he's kind, that he has kindness, it's automatically included that he has all of those details, and you don't need to say the details and the details don't really have their own existence, they don't need they're not like a bunch of separate things that he has to have.

If you have kindness, you have everything. If you know what it means to be kind, and you really want to be kind, automatically you know what it means how to do all these other things, and you you'll want to do them. וכמו כן במידה פרטית אחרת, and the same way with a different character trait, שבעצמיות, within yourself, כמו מידת הגבורה, like the attribute of גבורה, which is, let's say, severity, or justice, the thing that you want everything to be fair and just, let's say, that's like a thing of גבורה.

So if a person has a sense of justice, automatically that includes all the details that he's going to in every situation, in every circumstance, he's going to want to do the fair thing. And things should be, you know, deserved, and worked for.

And that's a whole worldview that comes along with that. והתפארת, and the same thing with beauty or showing off, that a person's going to want a person that has a sense of beauty wants everything to be beautiful or, at least, knows how to make everything beautiful, and it's a whole it would come out in everything, and it's a whole

world worldview also. והנצח, and the same thing with winning, with victory, competition, that a person that wants to win and wants to, you know, be the best in things, and very competitive, that that desire comes out can come out in everything, that they want to win everything. It's not like they have a specific desire for each game that they want to win. Yeah, I'll erase to the next slide.

וכהאי גוונא, and the like, עד בחינת המלכות, all the way down to the desire for kingship, שהוא מידת התנשאות, which that's the attribute of upliftedness. It's kind of like to be over people, to be higher than people, that you're in charge of them and that they praise you and things like that, they're subservient and subordinate.

שכלולה בעשר מידות, that surely the attribute of kingship, of leadership, includes all ten things, that there's a רצון וחפץ למלוכה, there's desire, חפץ means like a craving, to be a king, וחוכמה ומידות ומחשבה וכולי, and there's a whole creative wisdom that you have to have of how you're going to make the laws and how you're going to run your country, and then there's the emotions, and there's thought, speech, and action.

There's a lot goes into being a king. So we must say that a king has all those things.